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My Advice for Divorce Month
By: Anthony C. Adamopoulos, Divorce Arbitrator, Mediator & Collaborative Lawyer
Divorce Month is here. In 2016, I saw one of the saddest, unnecessary, adversarial divorces ever. The cost in emotions, future harmony and money was enormous and unnecessary.
So again, I urge everyone who is facing divorce to consider
seriously staying out of the public adversarial divorce system. It will hurt
and it will hurt way into the future.
Staying out of the “system” generally means choosing one of
two processes, either confidential mediation or confidential Collaborative
Divorce. Take the time to read about these important confidential divorce
approaches at The Three Approaches to Divorce.
If the two of you agree on only one thing, let it be that
you will use confidential mediation or confidential Collaborative Divorce.
Hand in hand with the right approach is the right lawyer.
Not all divorce lawyers are qualified to do divorce mediation or Collaborative
Divorce. Mediation requires training and success. Collaborative Attorneys need
to be certified. Believe me, this is not the time to go to your third cousin’s
friend’s real estate lawyer.
For more information about Divorce Mediation and
Collaborative Divorce:
The
Three Approaches - Graphically
The Massachusetts
Collaborative Law Council
The Massachusetts Council
on Family Mediation
The Divorce
Center